Why won't he take me back?
Dear Caroline,
A few months ago whilst visiting my dad (like a normally do every fortnight) I met a guy called Adam. We instantly hit it off we became really close after I'd only seen him a couple of times. It was difficult seeing him as he lived around the same area as my dad which meant I could only see him once every two weeks. Like I said we instantly hit it off and after knowing him for only two weeks he told me that he wanteed to go out with me. I really liked him aswel but there were alot of complications to this relationship.
The fact that we lived so far apart and couldn't spend time with each other until i isited my dad ws the main one. But adam is also three years older than me so as you can imagine my parents were'n't too keen on the idea of us going out together (even if they didn't say anything) and to top it all off adam's brother and best mate both fancied me aswel. But despite alll of this we decided to get together and managed to keep a strong relationship going (even if it was only for a few weeks) It was hard not being able to see each other but when we were together it was so nice. I fell in love with him in a matter of weeks and before i knew it everything i did depended on him. Everywhere I went reminded me of him.
As you can imagine the more I realised just how much he meant to me the harder it was not being able to be withhim whenever we wanted. We used to talk/txt each other everynight where he would tell me he felt the same way about me. Then one day everything changed. He told me that he couldn't handle a once a fortnight relationshipand decided to finnish with me without giving me the chance to talk to him. He would reject my calls and not reply to my text messages the only way I could find out what was going on was by talking to his brother. Which was awkward as you can tell as he fancied me.
The next time I saw him was really weird. He acted like nothin ahd ever happened between us. I was sort of coming to terms with the fact that we weren't together anyomore but it still hurt. I knew his friend liked me so i took advantage of this and kissed him in front of adam in an attempt toa) get over him quicker andb)to see whether it made him jealousLater that night adam and I got into a fight.
He told me that it wasn't fair on his friend for me to do that, especially as I know he likes me.
He told me that he was glad I wanted to get over him but not to broadcst in front of him because he still has alot of fellings for me but "that isnt giving me what I want" he said.
He told me he thought the world of me but it wasn't enough. He told me that I couldn't give him the kind of relationship he wanted and even if I could he wouldn't accept it from me.
What does this mean?
I can't help but think that he's telling me that he doesn't want to be with me because he can't have sex with becasue we dont see each other enough. Which I can see the logic in but even after I told him I was moving to live with my dad so we could be together he still turned me down. What's going on? why won't he take me back after everything he's said about how much he loves me etc?
Yours sincerely
Ami
Hi Ami,
Men are funny creatures aren't they he seemed to like you when you were around and then likes the idea of being with you and then getting cold feet. Not a nice way to treat a woman and not a great basis for a good solid relationship with anyone!
As far as it seems he has feelings for you but not in the way that you have for him, he's a fool and if your a free agent now you can go out with anyone you want to go out with so if your a great looking girl and it seems that you are then take any offers that you get from the guys you like and have some fun and get over him , he wont change men like that don't, and you cant feel like this about him get over him and get someone who really likes you for real and not for passing time with. your worth more than that.
Regards
Caroline