Very Ugly & Not Desirable!
Hi Caroline,
Hope you can help me this problem, me and my girl split after 8 months of going out and living with each other but in the last 2 months she was pregant and we didnt know which would probly explain why she was distant from me a lot b4 i ended the relationship but i thought she didnt love me no more etc. I met someone else who i could talk to and stuff but it wasnt sexual in any way! yer the day after i split with my girl she went and kissed a guy in a club! then on the day she found about me and this other girl, she went and slept with my best mate whom she said is very ugly and not very desirable at all while i was with her.
This mate used to sleep around alot and hes married with 2 kids! but now he has done it too me and so has she! we got back toghether a week after we split and she slept with him like 3 days b4 w we got back:/ I own a club and she works in this club and my mate manages our club (dads club) and both me and him have worked there for 10 years now toghether! and this is the venue in which they slept toghether too after he was kissing her all night in a pub and took her back there for sex! NOW for my problem! Why cant i FUCKING forget this! i will never talk to him ever again but she is having my baby and i love her very much but i keep bringing this up and shoving it in her face like every day!
I want to forget but im a very paranoid person as it is and im not sure shes telling the whole truth of what happened! she insists that she didnt let him finish the job with her and he just says he cant remeber having sex at all. Im now getting house and gonna bring up my child with her and i cant keep bringing up the past ! please help with some advice as i dont have many ppl i can talk too:/ Thx G
Hi G,
OK so you think you've committed yourself to a life with this here now partner? she's having your baby ? and you’re doing the decent thing by standing by her and being with her is this how you want to live is this what you want ?
You embarked on a friendship (so you say) with no sexual contact (so you say) how did she feel when she knew about that?carrying you baby etc... rejected alone and sulky? I bet!!! So she kind of got her own back (so to speak) although it doesn't condone what she did! (if she really did do it) with me so far?????!!!!!
OK, your friend says no he cant remember , your partner says yes it happened who to believe? that's up to your own judgement really Your feeling s should tell, your intuition really and then you can try and work out what's gone wrong!
Do you love her?
Do you want a family with her?
Can you have a proper relationship together ? No secret girlfriend's etc... be open!
How about your mate?
Do you like him?
Do you want to believe him?
Questions to ask to work out your resolution to this matter.if you decide to build a life with your girl and baby then do just that, either forgive and forget and get on with today tomorrow and the rest of it or keep dragging it up and tormenting and teasing and intimidating her again and again (which I guarantee wont make it last) the discussion is yours at the ed of the end, try asking those questions to yourself and then you'll find your answer.
Good Luck
Regards
Caroline